Well, what a week it has been, new to the Family is The Englishman, also known as Soots, a 16.3 TBxID - a little different to a Haffie and a mini ;0). I am very lucky to have been offered him on loan, and hes here for a trial to make sure we are all happy
Picture here of their first meeting...

giddy of course is well in charge ;0), there was no squealing from her at all which i was most surprised at; she asserted herself in a very cool calm fashion and after they had all greeted, she led the herd down the field and the two boys followed her meekly
Lightning and soots however did a fair bit of squealing on the first night, and by day two, my two were bullying the great big horse something chronic. I took my stick and string down in the end and tried to support him in the herd by driving Lightning away who was the worse of the two; they have settled a little now, but it has been quite difficult watching soots discover the boundaries of his new herd.
Soots finally began to stand his ground on day 4, I suppose he just needed to build some confidence in his new surroundings, and get used to the equivalent of a terrier coming at him with the violence of a rotweiler; pretty strange to see a mini chasing a 16.3!
It has been very interesting to watch in terms of why Giddy is such a handful, she is incredibly dominant, but did very little to assert herself apart from a couple of double barrels, but then just made it clear she was in charge in a very passive way. Lightning is more defensive and attacking, and I think there is an element of him defending his mare
I have done very little with Soot so far, I figured a week was a good time to settle to ensure he was comfortable; I havent been able to resist however a few little touches on some games. I was a litle wary of him to start, he's so very big, and I know with absolute accuracy how Giddy reacts and responds, but Soots is an unknown quantity at the moment, and although I had lots of feedback on what a good boy is, I of course have to discover this for myself; so I was a little wary, and him a little reserved to start for a couple of days, but now am feeling much more connected with him
Already I can feel that difference between a horse that wants to try to connect and one that is constantly challenging for leadership; Giddy tests me every single moment I am with her, and I have to be totally on form to keep the connection, the minute I am out of place, or rush, or my phases or not gentle enough, then the relationship can break down rapidly and she takes control
With this very gentle old chap, I feel that he wants to connect and play even though its early days, just whilst getting to know him in the field, have tried things like backing him up a little at liberty, and its straight and soft, and sooooooooo different to the challenging little haffie
So interesting days ahead, I think maybe this horse has come to me for a reason as part of my parelli journey, and am hopeful he can also help me with Giddy on many levels. I certainly look forward to some riding that is not a battle of wills, negotiation and levels of patience that I dont always have. I dont suppose my leg muscles are looking forward to getting up there!
As the owner of a 16.3 bay gelding and a young haffie girlie, I read your post with great interest, having really felt for you with the challenges you have faced with Giddy.
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I really wish you all the best of luck and good times with your new loan boy, he looks a real treat. And boys are more 'tellable' than girls sometimes arent they!
BTW I could never get on the 16.3 (actually more like 17!) from the ground, its either mounting block or bank or gate or horsebox ramp! The only time Ive done it from the ground was out hacking when I dropped my whip, and then I had to let the stirrup right down and climb up !!!
But you will be OK up there, the air is thinner but its amazing how comforting a big bay neck is, with my Haffie its just ears and then nothing :-)))
Have lots of fun with him